Couples Therapy
“To be human is to need others, and this is no flaw or weakness.”
Dr. Sue Johnson
When you feel disconnected from the person who matters the most, your sense of home in the world can feel unstable.
You’ve always been able to get through hard moments together, but lately communication just keeps breaking down. Whether it’s trying to manage the emotional chaos of being new parents, adjusting after a big move, or trying to heal after infidelity, you can’t deny it anymore - it’s taken a toll on your relationship.
Talking about it usually ends up in an argument, and it feels like you keep having the same fights without any resolution. You feel misunderstood, you both get defensive, and nothing changes. Maybe you’ve stopped trying, just so you can avoid this same exhausting cycle…but the silence and emotional distance feel just as painful. You’re both walking on eggshells around each other, feeling more frustrated and hopeless by the day. You wonder if things will ever go back to how they used to be. What if your relationship is broken?
If any of this sounds all too familiar, just know - there is a way through this.
You can find home in one another again.
Deep down, you know you care deeply about one another, and believe in what you have built together. It’s just that the old strategies haven’t been working, and you need some new skills. It is possible to restore safety and trust, and find a renewed - and maybe even stronger - connection.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT): A proven path to help you reconnect, repair, and deepen your bond.
I am a certified Emotionally Focused Therapist (EFT) for couples, which means I have completed extensive and rigorous training and supervision, and have demonstrated proven expertise, in using EFT to facilitate healing for couples experiencing distress and conflict. EFT is an empirically validated treatment grounded in attachment science and backed by over 30 years of research, and is widely considered to be a gold standard for couples therapy. It is based on the notion that secure emotional bonds are essential for thriving.
EFT is powerful because it moves beyond just teaching basic, surface-level communication skills, and helps you truly get to the heart of the matter. Together, we will help you identify and move out of the painful cycles that keep you stuck, find new ways to express your emotional needs, and create a deeper, lasting bond so you feel like you’re back on the same team again.
The video below features the founder of EFT, Dr. Sue Johnson, speaking about how EFT helps create secure bonds and soothes the brain.
I also have advanced training in the Gottman Method, which is build on over 40 years of research and observation into how couples interact, and what elements foster a strong and enduring relationship. I incorporate elements of the Gottman Method into the work where needed to best facilitate emotional safety and skill-building.
I have specialized training and experience with ADD/ADHD-impacted couples, new and hopeful parents, and interracial/intercultural couples. I support couples with various struggles, including:
Improving communication and emotional intimacy
Conflict resolution and de-escalation
Sexual concerns and intimacy issues
Cross-cultural concerns
Healing from relationship betrayal (sexual, emotional and/or financial)
Reproductive stress
Transition to parenthood
Goodness of Fit Disclaimer:
For the first 4-6 sessions, I will be assessing if EFT/Gottman and I can be helpful to your relationship. If during this process I determine that either EFT/Gottman and/or myself is not a good fit for working together, I will discuss this assessment with you and provide an appropriate referral.